Adult Counseling

Sometimes, we need to treat ourselves to time spent with an objective, non-judgmental, and understanding person who can help us sort through our concerns.  

To me, counseling is something we all need at times in our lives.  I want our relationship to be one where you feel important, cared about and safe to say all of the sad, angry, embarrassing, fearful or otherwise upsetting things you keep hidden deep inside.

Counseling is my passion.  It’s my later in life career.  I chose counseling after much thought.  I have a richness of experiences in my life that helps me to connect with my clients.  I have been a daughter, wife, mother, friend, West Point cadet, Army officer, corporate senior manager and small business owner.    I have been an athlete, a photographer and a scholar.  I am a child of divorce who then got divorced and remarried as an adult.  I have struggled with perfectionism, over-achievement, infertility and anxiety. I am you in so many ways and you are me.

I LOVE what I do.  I am PASSIONATE about it.  It ENERGIZES me.  I read therapy books for fun.  It’s hard to turn it off when I leave the office.  I can’t begin to explain how much becoming a therapist made me a better person, wife, mother, friend, daughter, listener, advocate etc.  I have learned that I am truly enough and accept and love myself for who I am.  I shed perfectionism and worrying about what other people thought about me.

So why does that matter?  Because I want to do that for YOU!

I want you to feel alive and energized and connected in healthy, meaningful relationships.    I want you to learn that you are truly enough and to love and accept yourself.  I want you to know that you don’t have to be perfect, smart, successful, rich, pretty (you fill in the blank) to be valued. I want you to wake up every day feeling like life is pretty darn amazing.  I want to help you create the life you really, truly want, not the one you think you are supposed to be living.

So how can I do that for you?  Truthfully, I can’t fix things, but I can help you to change your life.  You already have everything you need right inside of you.  You just need help finding it.  Doesn’t that already make you feel better?

What I do is LISTEN and CARE and SUPPORT you UNCONDITIONALLY no matter what.  I PROVIDE A SAFE and SUPPORTIVE Environment for you to cry, vent, scream etc.  I offer PERSPECTIVE and INSIGHT. I love balancing both intellect and emotion to create the type of environment that meets you where you are, with full acceptance and warm caring.

And then I am awed by your resiliency and ability to change and claim the type of life and relationships you want.  It’s amazing!  That’s why I LOVE what I do.  I get to help people change and grow and create a life that truly matters to them.  That’s an HONOR.

I want you to experience the comfort of being with someone who listens to you and cares about you without judgement, such that you learn to love yourself just because you breathe.  I want you to learn that you do not have to do anything special to be worthy or to be loved; that you matter in this world and are worthy just because you breathe.

My office is very casual and so am I.  Some days, I’ll be wearing a skirt, and on others, I’ll be in jeans and a cozy sweater. I use an online client portal that it paperless and has an online calendar to make your life easier (and mine) and to hopefully save some trees from being made into endless paper.  You’ll be able to contact me confidentially and schedule and change your appointments online without playing phone tag or having to talk to a receptionist.  You can choose to receive email and/or text reminders of your appointments. My goal is to make the process as easy as possible for you.  I think it’s hard enough to come to therapy, so I try to make the experience as good as I can for you.

I would love to provide a safe space for you to share your pain and feel cared about.

I would love to help you discover your inner strengths and empower you to create the rich and meaningful life you deserve.

I would love to help you reconnect with the people in your life whose opinions really matter.

Many of us have trouble connecting with others in an authentic manner or we lose our identity in the process of raising our children or building our careers.  We often sacrifice their needs and happiness for others.  When our children are older and do not need us as much, we become lost.  When our adult children leave home for college and careers, we mourn that time in our lives when our kids were younger, and we struggle with how to create meaning.  We have mid-life crises because we have felt stuck and unhappy and are at a loss for how to find joy and meaning in our lives.

I am passionate about working with both men and women to help them create the life they want to live and to develop deeper relationships with friends, family, spouses and partners.  I want all people to recognize their special value and to love and accept themselves.  I use cognitive behavior therapy and incorporate elements of Dr. Brene´ Brown’s work on vulnerability, shame and resiliency to help men and women give themselves grace and reach a new level of peace and joy in their lives.

Areas I can help you with include:

  • Perfectionism
  • Never feeling like you are enough
  • Relationship concerns
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Parenting
  • Couple’s counseling
  • Life transitions
  • Launching your children into adulthood
  • Mid-life concerns
  • Communication
  • Career indecision
  • Women’s issues
  • Menopause
  • Finding meaning in life
  • Returning to the workforce after raising children
  • Low sexual desire and other sexual concerns
  • Adult ADHD/ADD
  • Social skills/social anxiety

If you would like to listen to Dr. Brown’s TED talk on vulnerability, please click HERE.

If you’d like more information or are ready to take the next step to living the life you truly want, please click HERE to contact me or call me at 913-735-0384.